cathyr19355 | Cold War ending

esrblog called me at work today to tell me he couldn't take it anymore. Couldn't take watching Sugar slink around our house, looking for opportunities to dart upstairs to see us, acting for all the world like a member of the Resistance during World War II evading the Nazis. "I'm sorry, but we can't keep Princess," he said.

I was saddened too, but not surprised. My morale was flagging from having to track down my beloved older cat just to spend time with her, and my energy level was dropping from all the effort I spent trying to intervene. To say nothing of the fact that I had come to feel guilty about spending time in my comfy room with Princess, when Sugar was crying for me from the basement.

So I went to the friend I got Princess from and told her where we stood. She was unhappy too, because she wants Princess to have a good home but already has four cats and cannot take Princess on a long-term basis herself.

However, my friend knows more local cat owners than I do. She made phone calls. Turns out that a friend of one of the other attorneys in our office is interested in Princess. If she commits, we can take Princess to her Friday. If not, it will take us a bit longer to get her placed, and my friend suggested that her son could take Princess in the meantime.

It's a shame.

esrblog and I will both miss Princess. But while she stays, we fear we will be missing Sugar even more. At least if this works out both cats will have a good home, and I will have gotten my peace of mind back.

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Cathy, I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out, but it sounds like a good solution has been found. I understand your need for peace and the desire to keep your old girl happy. whew!

Thanks so much for the sympathy. Right now I feel like I have stabbed three friends in the back: my friend (who thought she'd already found a good home for this cat), Princess herself (for giving her away after she and I had begun to bond) and Sugar (for agreeing to take Princess in the first place and putting her through all of this grief).

On the other hand, better end it now, before I come to hate Princess for doing what comes naturally (to her!) in doing her best to monopolize my attention.

I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out. One sad fact of life is that two good cats often can't live together. Hope the mentioned friend of a friend will be able to take her in, and that Sugar will be able to do the little V-Day dance soon.

(

landley hastens to remind me that if you find yourself in need of extra cats, we may be a supplier of such in about two months...)

Thanks. I've told my friend that I believe Princess would do best as an only cat, and if the first-mentioned possibility pans out, that's what she'll be! I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

As for your supply of kittens...noted. Further deponent sayeth not for now.

My LoPan is my bestest, sweetest, and also my first cat (ever.)

We lost his fuzzy buddy Ichi 3 years ago & got him some new pals, Moushi and Habibi. Moushi turns out to want to be 1st cat, and is part Bengal (which apparently defaults to "high maintenance.") Habibi loves pets when she loves pets, but seems content to sleep up on a perch. Moushi's gotta sleep closest to my head (but not on me.)

Thankfully, LoPan does stand up for himself, mostly. And he'll sleep ON me, which means closer, but farther from my head (rather, on my hip or thigh.)

I gotta keep making sure that I spend attentive time on each of them, which is odd. I thought cats were low maintenance? HAH! Shyah, right.

*hugs*

esrblog originally thought Princess might make a good companion for Sugar. Unfortunately, Princess much preferred me. Sigh.

Cats are low maintenance in terms of physical care, but they were gods once, and they tend to be jealous gods still when they get the chance. I've found that out during the Sugar-Princess Cold War.

the Sugar-Princess Cold War

...would make a lovely chapter title in a memoir!

Then treasure my LiveJournal, because it's as close to writing a memoir as I'm likely to get. :-)

So sad. However, LIFO is the rule for pets.

That's what my head is telling me. That's what my love for Sugar is telling me. But I still feel like a heel, especially since my friend is having to take Princess back herself after all. Though there's still a possibility her son and his girlfriend, with their 5 cats, will be willing to take her.

My sister as talked me into adopting a 6 - 8 month old male who showed up at her farm. Since they already have two cats (and three dogs, two horses, two miniature horses, a miniature donkey, a dozen goats and over fifty chickens) she doesn't want another cat.

He's friendly, even with the horses, goats and dogs, but my concern is Motley, the female of my current pair, who was born behind my TV. She has a history of chasing off other cats, but seems most aggressive against other females, so I'm hoping she'll tolerate this guy. Will post updates to LJ after I get him in.

Tentative name for him is Michael, after the mystery cat of Japanese manga, and the fact that he's black and white. :-)

I have never heard of the "mystery cat of Japanese manga," but it sounds like a good name.

I originally feared that Sugar would menace Princess, but it turned out the other way around. I hope you have better luck with your adoption effort than I did with mine.

I'm sorry it didn't work out in the best of ways, but it sounds like you're doing the right thing for everyone, human and feline, involved. Good luck with the transition....

Thanks. I think you're right about this being the best thing. I am convinced, at least, that Princess will do better in a multi-cat household than Sugar ever would.

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